I wrote this to show a different side of mental health struggles. This is not a cry for help. It is a plea for solidarity with those of us who struggle even if you can't understand at that exact moment. And maybe ask us if you can help us check anything off our to-do list that day.
Just think happy thoughts. You’ll believe them eventually.
That’s what we’re told. That the key to anxiety and depression is just a matter
of finding the right combo of positive thinking and medicine to find your way
to the other side. While it’s true both of those can help, no one talks about
the harder issue. The constant fight.
I wake up every morning and have to remind myself 100 times
that my life is worth living, that my friends are sincere when they say nice
things about me, that hope still exists. Two hours into a given day and I’m
already exhausted. So I take a nap, which makes me feel lazy since naps are
looked down upon. I wake up and work on my homework in between zoning out on
the internet, hoping the next video will tamp down my anxiety enough to make
real progress.
On a good day, I go to a therapy appointment and tell my
long suffering psychiatrist all this. She looks on kindly, reminds me to
practice self-compassion, and adjusts my meds for the 3rd time this
month in hopes of moving the needle a little farther to the positive side. I
log off the appointment, put the remainder of my homework off til the morning,
and play some video games in hopes of calming my mind enough to sleep.
It doesn’t often work. I spend the night worried about every
possible misstep, sure that every bad thing that ever happened to me is sure to
happen again while every good thing was just a fluke. It is morning again. The
cycle continues. That is my daily reality.
I say all this not for pity, but to say that depression and
anxiety aren’t always about mental breakdowns and staring off dramatically into
the middle distance. Most days they’re about fighting your own instincts long
enough for better ones to take over. For, one hopes, lack of trust to be
replaced by cautious optimism. But I’ve gotta be honest. Most days, I’m too
tired. I ran out of steam months ago. Now I’m just here. But I’m still here at
least.
